This is an old post from a fertility issues bullitin board, dated on the day I made it.
So, my husband has low sperm count, poor motility, and low morphology. He’s been on clomid for 2 months now to try and increase the count, but they said it probably wouldn’t work and that if we got pregnant naturally, it would be “like winning the lottery.” Nice, huh?
I’ve been resistant to the idea of donor sperm, but he’s been trying to convince me to do it. Finally convinced me to at least consider it the other night, and we have an appt with the RE to go in and discuss it. I’m worried about it, and mourning the loss of the creation of the family the way we planned on. However, waiting to save money until we can do IVF is hurting me more. So, it sounds like we’re going to try doing IUIs with donor sperm, and see where that takes us. Insurance will cover the IUI, at least until January, when my insurance changes–but thats a whole other subject. Suffice to say there’s some pressure to do it soon.
Anyways, here’s my question: How do you feel about donor sperm? Could you do it, knowing that it isn’t your only chance (there’s a chance we could get pregnant using husband’s sperm and IVF)? Would you worry, as I do, about throwing it in his face in an argument (ie, “She’s not even your kid!”)? Or am I crazy to worry about that?